Normal progression from dating to relationship
Many people get married during this stage of overwhelming passion and romance, thinking it will be this way forever.
You've already proven to each other that you love each other. Now your love is shown by dependability, trust, honesty, the things that are REALLY meaningful.
This power struggle must take place and leads to the question: Can I be me and still be in this relationship? Recommitment to marriage or permanence and to your partner as the chosen one.
This takes place only after each partner has determined they can be who they are and be in a permanent commitment.
Is this love, comfort, fun, and support or is this boredom?
(There is boredom if true self has been submerged, conflict has been suppressed, and the lack of tension and increasing distance has killed the closeness.) RECOMMITMENT IS A LIFELONG, ONGOING, REWARDING AND GROWING PROCESS.
Basically, I want to know how you truly feel about my taste in music but not about your dream centerpiece for your future wedding. I just want to know you’re remembering what I like and that my efforts are making progress.
I want to see you with sweatpants and no makeup on!You don’t have to deck yourself out every time you see me.I’m attracted to you, not the clothes you wear or how perfectly you curled your hair. I’ve been with you this long, which clearly indicates I’m in it to win it.I’ll watch The Notebook with you, who knows maybe I’ll even tear up? Don’t hesitate to ask me if you need help moving furniture or need me to run to CVS and get you supplies (tampons and chocolate) when you need them.If you surprise me with that beer I’ve been wanting to try I might actually enjoy it. I’m tired of buzzing you in all the time when you come over, so let’s swap keys to each other’s places. As long as it involves us it will be a smashing time.
You have to love ALL of your partner, and that includes accepting that he/she is NOT perfect.